ROMAN ZULAUF and MARISSA DOMINGUEZ
From Marissa: My mother had been a member of the Affinity Exchange, so it was her who suggested I join. Then I met someone at work; but after awhile, it became obvious it wasn’t going to work out. So Mom suggested I re-join AE, and also suggested I look not just in the U.S. but venture further out. I thought this sounded like a good idea, but I just activated my profile and did not actually do any searches.
A month or so later, my mom reminded me to check my Inbox. I found a dozen messages. Of them all, Roman’s email captured me. I then read his profile and immediately thought, “He’s the guy I’ve been looking for.” For the first time, I felt ready to get married. But Roman lived in Switzerland (I live in Los Angeles), so I decided to get in communication and at least develop a nice friendship.
We emailed back and forth for a month. He suggested we get a webcam. Then we talked every day for an hour by webcam. A few months after our initial contact, he flew to Los Angeles and we finally met in person. We hit it off right away.
For the next 1-1/2 years we got together every 3 months—I went to Switzerland twice, and he came to the U.S. four times.
Here’s a funny thing… he was talking rings before we even did the webcam. Then four months ago we went shopping for rings. He even announced our marriage plans to my family, but he didn’t officially propose till the day before our wedding!
Thank you, Marcia, for creating the Affinity Exchange. Who knows where your true love is located on this planet. You made it possible for us to find each other.
From Roman: I was in a relationship with someone, but our philosophical differences were too great to overcome, so I ended it. I realized how much I wanted to find the right person and stabilize that part of my life. Having previously heard about the Affinity Exchange, I found it and signed up. I did extensive international searches and paid right away so I could send email messages.
My search narrowed down to two choices—one in Switzerland and one in Los Angeles (Marissa). Curiously enough, the lady in Switzerland never answered! It took Marissa a few weeks, but she finally responded. The rest you know from Marissa’s story.
Pretty early on, I knew I wanted to marry her, but I didn’t want to propose on the webcam, so our courtship continued. When we finally decided to take the vows, it all went pretty fast, but we were still not physically together. I wanted to make the official proposal in person, which I did… the day before the wedding. Oh well, better late than never, as they say!
The question comes up, “How can you tell if someone is the right person?” So I asked my sister. She said that Mom said “When the right person comes along, you’ll just know.” Well, with Marissa, it was indeed like that. There are no “issues.” We get along great. We laugh together about everything. Our affinity is out the roof, as well as common realities and excellent communication. We have created the safehaven I originally postulated.
It’s hard to imagine how we would have connected without the Affinity Exchange. Thank you so much, Marcia, for putting it there.
From Marcia: Turns out I (Marcia) was able to be the minister for this wedding, in addition to having been the matchmaker! They asked me to “say a few words” before starting the official ceremony. Below is what I said:
“I want to welcome you all to this joyous occasion—the marriage of Roman and Marissa.
Before we begin the official ceremony, I would like to say a few words.
As most of you probably already know, Roman is from Switzerland. They met through an online dating service—mine, in fact. So in addition to being their minister, I was also their matchmaker.
Meeting Roman yesterday for the first time, I had a chance to get more of his story. First he decided that he really wanted to find the right person and create a stable relationship. He searched the world and chose TWO ladies—one in Switzerland and one in Los Angeles. The one in Switzerland did not even respond. Fortunately, Marissa did (Marissa told me that his initial email to her “captured” her), and thus began a courtship that lasted for a year and a half using email, webcam, and half a dozen transcontinental visits.
As I’m sure you’ll all agree, Marissa is a beautiful young woman, and Roman is a handsome young man. They meet, they fall in love. Well, that’s the easy part. “Living happily ever after” is the challenging part.
The ceremony we are about to do talks about the ARC Triangle. A stands for Affinity, which means liking. “I have a special affinity for frogs—or football, or the color pink.” R stands for Reality—that which is real. C stands for Communication. I think you all know what that means. Communication is the most important of these three components. These three components are interrelated and move up and down together. If communication falls out, the affinity lowers, don’t you agree? Thus, understanding this triangle, I think you would all agree that a married couple should have very high ARC.
Fortunately, I am convinced that Roman and Marissa have VERY high ARC. This is what will get them through the trials and tribulations that life offers up. Roman says they have no issues and they laugh together about everything. This is a good sign!
Additionally, already knowing Marissa’s family, and now having gotten to meet Roman’s, it makes me very happy to know that this young couple have an abundance of relatives who know a lot of things about a lot of things. It’s great to have a support team loaded with wisdom and experience. Thus I am very pleased to help this lovely young couple to take the marriage vows.”