Archive for the ‘Success Stories 2010-2011’ Category
From Edie: “When I was 16, I knew what kind of man I wanted to marry. Many years later, Luc sent me an email through The Affinity Exchange.
I was in San Francisco and Luc was in London, so initially we spoke daily on the phone. Discovering we had the same goals and purposes, we both came to realize that we had the potential for a great relationship. So it wasn’t long before I was on a plane to London.
Five days after arriving, I found myself at the top of the Eiffel tower in Paris, where Luc got down on one knee and proposed!
Now, a year and a half after we got married, I can say that we are very happy together. We spend 95% of our time together and still feel like newlyweds! This would never have been possible without the help of The Affinity Exchange. Thank you so very much!”
From Luc: “I was in Scotland, when a friend of mine told me about The Affinity Exchange. I had decided that after my divorce and some mishaps, I wanted a Scientology partner and I wanted someone who wanted to get married–not just be friends. So I went ahead and put my profile on AE.
In September 2006, Edie ‘smiled’ at me, but there was no picture. However, I liked her profile and even sent her a bouquet of flowers for her birthday–and that without having seen any picture! But then I dropped it, as I could not conceive of the idea of going to San Francisco.
Fortunately, after nearly two years, Edie sent me an e-mail, as she found it strange that someone who had sent her a bouquet of flowers would suddenly stop communicating. It showed me her persistence and, lo and behold, within no time we were talking on the phone every day! I really liked the being at the other end of the line.
In 2008, as I still did not fancy flying across the pond, I invited Edie to come over to London for Christmas. She arrived at the airport and I was surprised when I saw her, as it turns out the picture she had sent me was 10 years old. This was the only time Edie had been less than truthful with me. But I stuck to my viewpoint of what I had perceived during our phone conversations all those months, especially our identical goals and purposes. I very much liked her ability to persist and make things go right!
Knowing how much Edie loved France, I invited her to go to Paris for 5 days. Among other places, we visited the Eiffel Tower–where better to propose?!–and the rest is history.
I moved to San Francisco a few months later. We got married, and now, more than a year and a half later, I can attest that we are very happy together and very much enjoy helping each other achieve our goals.
If it were not for The Affinity Exchange, Edie’s persistence, and me sticking to what I knew was right, I would not be the happy man I am now! Thank you, Marcia, and thank you, Edie.”
From Lidia: When I created my profile in Affinity Exchange I did not really expect too much from this. But I knew that if you want to find something you need to make outflow and the site seemed to fulfill this purpose.
Around that time I was pretty busy preparing my trip to Denmark. So I just created the profile, wrote something about myself and then kind of forgot about it and then went to Denmark for study. I was not really expecting that something immediately would happen although I felt that something should happen in my life. And I just decided to do my best, be concentrated about my studies and let things going any way they would go.
Then one day – I entered the course room and I saw HIM! When I looked at him I knew instinctively that this was the way the man of my dreams should look. I immediately understood that this was the kind of man I had been looking for all this time. And it was as if he also noticed me and some connection happened in that moment.
Shortly after this “meeting” I had to go back to Russia without having a chance to explore this further. When I arrived home my first action was to check Affinity Exchange with my new idea about who I am really looking for. This time I decided at least to look at the men’s profiles on the site because before I did not care about those.
Imagine the shock – I nearly jumped out of my chair when in my search I saw exactly that very Danish person!!! I carefully read his profile and could not believe that everything he wrote was exactly what I was looking for!! Every single charactaristic was coinciding with my ideals – purposes, languages spoken, color of eyes, age, taste in music and our religion! I could not believe that this was possible at all. And a single “smile” sent through this site to his profile changed my life forever…
We are now married and live together in Denmark and everything we have found out about each other is even better than each of us ever dared to dream about.
From Stig: I had created my profile at Affinity Exchange some time ago and had even started some conversations but, all in all, I did not really find a true match – it felt like a blind alley. I got involved in other activities and became inactive on the site for a while.
Then I was starting some studies in Copenhagen. One day I was sitting in the course room, incidently turned around and saw SOMEONE who seemed to make some sparks flying throught the air. I knew that something special had occured but had not chance to explore this further – she seemed to have disappeared from town.
A few days later I was checking my email and saw a notification about a “smile” from Affinity Exchange. Of course, I had to check this out – and, much to my surprise, I saw a picture of EXACTLY the one I had seen in the course room!! Not only that – when I looked over the profile I could hardly believe how well it matched to my ideas and feelings.
I decided to write, and the many conversations only confirmed how well we matched each other. And I had no doubts about how right our relationship was and it was developing quite fast. So the next time she came for studies in Copenhagen we also got married and the rest is history!
AFFINITY EXCHANGE SUCCESS STORY
GREG BUTLER and MARLANA SZOKE
From Marlana: I had never imagined meeting someone through a dating website, but I had ended a relationship and, after a little while, I decided I would try the Affinity Exchange. I had been in California before and decided I wanted to return, so I searched the website for guys in California as well as New Jersey.
I sent smiles to a few guys, but there was one in particular who caught my interest. Something in his eyes came through to me—something special. However, he did not respond to the smile. Nevertheless, after awhile I decided to email him. Still I did not hear from him. That was around December 2008. In February 2009, I sent him a message letting him know that although I was interested in finding a partner, I was also interested in meeting new friends in California since I was moving there. This time he answered. (Later on, I found out that the reason he did not answer earlier was because he was in a relationship at that time).
This started our communication via emails, just asking questions and getting to know each other.
Once he was convinced I was really coming to California, we started talking on the phone. I enjoyed this time of “getting to know each other.” He had a wonderful sound to his voice. I felt I could say almost anything. We became really close at this point. We started to web cam about a month or so before I moved. I had some stable things going for me in New Jersey, so relocating was a big change and involved some risks. Greg became a stable point for me. While I was traveling, we communicated every day by one means or another.
When I arrived and was walking up to his door, I experienced doubts, but then I remembered all the great comm cycles we’d had and how he was there for me when I was having a rough time with the move.
We then hung out a lot and really got to know each other, becoming really good friends. I appreciated his wonderful heart and sincerity. He made me feel good about myself and was supportive of my goals. Thus I started to fall in love with him and realize I had a really good thing going.
What is really important to me is that we are best friends, can be ourselves, and support each others’ goals. We may not always be on the same page, but hey!–that’s real life. Here is a quote I love: “A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ come together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.”
Another good one: “We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love. “
I found someone with a true and sincere heart–what I really wanted in a man. When I look into his eyes, I see his love for me and that makes me love him even more. I feel that when people are looking for a lifelong partner, they should not be so quick to judge. You should take time to really get to know the person inside. If they have similar goals to you, and you like who they are inside as a being, go for it. You may be looking for some ideal “look,” as well as how you want them to be and act. If you go a little out of this set reality, you may be surprised at what you find. I am so happy I was not quick to judge as I would have missed out on a good- hearted, sincere man. And remember, a relationship doesn’t just “happen.” You have to work at it to some degree. Be creative and make it fun!
We got married on October 9, 2010. We continue to create the future together and help each other achieve our goals. Thank you, Marcia, for making this possible!
From Greg: I had joined the Affinity Exchange to see if I could find a girlfriend. I went on some dates and had lots of fun. However, I wasn’t finding that special one I was searching for.
I was just about to quit the site, but I had one more month paid for. Then Marlana smiled at me for the second time. She was in New Jersey so I didn’t really pay any mind because I was looking for someone in L.A. However, I felt the intention that she wanted to communicate, so I emailed her and we started emailing back and forth. When she told me she was moving to Los Angeles, I became real interested.
We had lots of communication back and forth before she got to LA. When she finally arrived, it was time to see if we could really date and have fun together. If not, I would have at least made a new friend.
After a month or so, we were really getting to know each other, and I felt that she was the one that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. We had become best friends and really clicked. After being together about 10 months, I proposed to her. Without any hesitation she said YES! We had a great wedding in October.
I knew when she said yes that we were best friends for life and would never be alone again. Six months later, we still share our days together like it was our first date.
The Affinity Exchange site provided the tool to help me find the love of my life. Thank you, Marcia!
AARON MATTHES and OLGA KRAYKIVSKAYA
“ … All external barriers fell away with ease … “
From Aaron: I was looking for just the right spirit and AE helped me find her. Distance and time considerations rated low on the list of barriers, what with all the other spiritual attributes being there. So I put out my postulate, threw out the comm line, and it happened!
AE’s great profile questions and their truthful responses, along with the pictures, allowed me to find my dearest ally in a quick fashion. The email comm started in April, during which our communication proved completely open, able to approach any subject with ease, feeling able to ‘be’ who we were with no facades, pretenses or witholding. It was even better over the phone, and we laughed and most importantly were very interested in each other’s realities and wanted to communicate more. Deep affinity soon took hold.
In May I told her I wanted to come visit. She was very amazed that I had made my mind up so fast, but it was also in her reality that it could be so. For me, I knew all I needed to know, so what was the point in introducing arbitraries. As it turned out, she had a strong intention to visit Florida, so I arranged for her to come to where I lived. She took care of her visa and leave from work, as did I. All external barriers fell away with ease, including what would be considered by most an uncomfortable interview with a government official for the visa. She visited for three weeks in July. By the end of the visit, I had proposed. I flew to St. Peterburg in December, and we are now married!
We are very happy and our smiles cannot be suppressed when together. Our dreams are big and surely will come to be, so all the other small stuff simply gets rolled over very easily. We are 100% intent on being together, and no barriers will stop us. Governments can make it difficult for two people who fall in love to then simply be together. Olga and I take this in stride, while breathing a sigh of ‘whatever’ . After recognizing this games condition, we put things into perspective: there’s a powerful dynamic here, life is long, and our plans are big!
We wish others to have our same good fortune, so we encourage you to drop any considerations you may have about distance and governmental barriers. Find the right person, wherever they are in the world, and make it go right! Thank you, Marcia, for creating this wonderful international service.
From Olga: When I started to communicate with Aaron on Affinity Exchange, I was surprised how incredible he was. He expressed his feelings and thoughts with such beautiful words! They really touched my heart. We found that we have a lot of things in common. Our plans, interests and purposes in life are almost the same. I understood that I had met someone very special for me.
Thousands of miles are between us (he lives in Florida, and I live in Russia), but despite all the barriers, we courted and got married. Now we see our future in very bright colors!
I was looking for a man with whom I can stay with forever. And now, thanks to Marcia and AE, I found him. I am not sure that it would have been possible without Affinity Exchange. Thank you for making our happiness possible!
Much love, Olga
ROMAN ZULAUF and MARISSA DOMINGUEZ
From Marissa: My mother had been a member of the Affinity Exchange, so it was her who suggested I join. Then I met someone at work; but after awhile, it became obvious it wasn’t going to work out. So Mom suggested I re-join AE, and also suggested I look not just in the U.S. but venture further out. I thought this sounded like a good idea, but I just activated my profile and did not actually do any searches.
A month or so later, my mom reminded me to check my Inbox. I found a dozen messages. Of them all, Roman’s email captured me. I then read his profile and immediately thought, “He’s the guy I’ve been looking for.” For the first time, I felt ready to get married. But Roman lived in Switzerland (I live in Los Angeles), so I decided to get in communication and at least develop a nice friendship.
We emailed back and forth for a month. He suggested we get a webcam. Then we talked every day for an hour by webcam. A few months after our initial contact, he flew to Los Angeles and we finally met in person. We hit it off right away.
For the next 1-1/2 years we got together every 3 months—I went to Switzerland twice, and he came to the U.S. four times.
Here’s a funny thing… he was talking rings before we even did the webcam. Then four months ago we went shopping for rings. He even announced our marriage plans to my family, but he didn’t officially propose till the day before our wedding!
Thank you, Marcia, for creating the Affinity Exchange. Who knows where your true love is located on this planet. You made it possible for us to find each other.
From Roman: I was in a relationship with someone, but our philosophical differences were too great to overcome, so I ended it. I realized how much I wanted to find the right person and stabilize that part of my life. Having previously heard about the Affinity Exchange, I found it and signed up. I did extensive international searches and paid right away so I could send email messages.
My search narrowed down to two choices—one in Switzerland and one in Los Angeles (Marissa). Curiously enough, the lady in Switzerland never answered! It took Marissa a few weeks, but she finally responded. The rest you know from Marissa’s story.
Pretty early on, I knew I wanted to marry her, but I didn’t want to propose on the webcam, so our courtship continued. When we finally decided to take the vows, it all went pretty fast, but we were still not physically together. I wanted to make the official proposal in person, which I did… the day before the wedding. Oh well, better late than never, as they say!
The question comes up, “How can you tell if someone is the right person?” So I asked my sister. She said that Mom said “When the right person comes along, you’ll just know.” Well, with Marissa, it was indeed like that. There are no “issues.” We get along great. We laugh together about everything. Our affinity is out the roof, as well as common realities and excellent communication. We have created the safehaven I originally postulated.
It’s hard to imagine how we would have connected without the Affinity Exchange. Thank you so much, Marcia, for putting it there.
From Marcia: Turns out I (Marcia) was able to be the minister for this wedding, in addition to having been the matchmaker! They asked me to “say a few words” before starting the official ceremony. Below is what I said:
“I want to welcome you all to this joyous occasion—the marriage of Roman and Marissa.
Before we begin the official ceremony, I would like to say a few words.
As most of you probably already know, Roman is from Switzerland. They met through an online dating service—mine, in fact. So in addition to being their minister, I was also their matchmaker.
Meeting Roman yesterday for the first time, I had a chance to get more of his story. First he decided that he really wanted to find the right person and create a stable relationship. He searched the world and chose TWO ladies—one in Switzerland and one in Los Angeles. The one in Switzerland did not even respond. Fortunately, Marissa did (Marissa told me that his initial email to her “captured” her), and thus began a courtship that lasted for a year and a half using email, webcam, and half a dozen transcontinental visits.
As I’m sure you’ll all agree, Marissa is a beautiful young woman, and Roman is a handsome young man. They meet, they fall in love. Well, that’s the easy part. “Living happily ever after” is the challenging part.
The ceremony we are about to do talks about the ARC Triangle. A stands for Affinity, which means liking. “I have a special affinity for frogs—or football, or the color pink.” R stands for Reality—that which is real. C stands for Communication. I think you all know what that means. Communication is the most important of these three components. These three components are interrelated and move up and down together. If communication falls out, the affinity lowers, don’t you agree? Thus, understanding this triangle, I think you would all agree that a married couple should have very high ARC.
Fortunately, I am convinced that Roman and Marissa have VERY high ARC. This is what will get them through the trials and tribulations that life offers up. Roman says they have no issues and they laugh together about everything. This is a good sign!
Additionally, already knowing Marissa’s family, and now having gotten to meet Roman’s, it makes me very happy to know that this young couple have an abundance of relatives who know a lot of things about a lot of things. It’s great to have a support team loaded with wisdom and experience. Thus I am very pleased to help this lovely young couple to take the marriage vows.”
AFFINITY EXCHANGE SUCCESS STORY
ANTHONY PEACOCK AND LUDMILLA BABINA
From Ludmilla: I’m from Moscow. In January 2010 I was in Los Angeles when a friend told me about The Affinity Exchange and helped me join. The very next day I received an email from Anthony! I actually received a lot of reaches. Anthony did not appeal to me as I did not want to relocate to Australia, plus I had considerations about his work. However, I had enough manners to answer him.
Meanwhile, I was dating quite a few men, plus being in comm with others out of town. But Anthony was very persistent. Because I still wasn’t interested, I wrote him that I was in love with someone else. He was upset and wrote several messages back. He informed me that he had told someone that I’d be his wife. I was not happy with this, as I cannot stand when somebody forces me and declares me as his wife without reasons, but nevertheless I was always polite.
He then asked me to market him to other Russian girls, which I did. I also offered to help him with his profile. As I continued to edit and read his revisions, I found I liked what he wrote. I did not like his photos so made some suggestions. The new photos were much better and I found I now liked his looks. The poems he sent me to check seemed to be about me, which I found irritating. He’d occasionally ask about the guy I was in love with. I’d say it was going along. However, my attraction to him was growing.
Two months passed. I had comm with a German man, and it was disappointing. I found myself wanting to tell Anthony about it, and finally did. We then started to Skype—first in writing, then by voice. He complimented my voice. After four days of communicating this way, I discovered that I couldn’t live without his communication!
At that time I had eleven men on my lines. Two were especially highly qualified, but I found I was so engaged communicating with Anthony, I didn’t have time to communicate with the others. After Anthony found out about all the other men, he told me I was bored. Amazingly enough, that indicated to me! Then I told him he was just like the others and wanted to marry me. He said, “No. Maybe I’ll decide you’re not for me. Maybe I’ll reject you.” Then I found myself really getting interested.
We upgraded to Skype visual, and when he first saw me, he just sat there and smiled—admiring, but somehow different. It was very valuable to me. When he told me that he felt in love, I answered that I didn’t know how to react. But we kept communicating, day and night. I analyzed his messages and tested him in various ways, but I found that he never made me wrong.
A few weeks later, I flew to Perth. The moment we met, I liked him. During dinner I watched how he talked to me and to the waiter. He delivered what I needed and wanted. I decided then that if he asks me to marry him, I would say yes. The next morning he got down on one knee, presented a ring, and, of course, I said yes. I knew I had found the correct man!
Thank you, Marcia, for helping us find one another!
From Anthony: A fellow staff member at the Perth church told me about The Affinity Exchange. I signed right up. I had an idea of what I was looking for. There were choices, but nothing worked out. Remembering my previous interest in astrology, I researched a bit and found I was a Gemini Monkey. I learned that the most compatible partner for me would be a Libran Rat. This really narrowed the search. I wrote Marcia, and she suggested I broaden my search and include Russia.
Early January 2010 I spoke to a friend and he told me he’d written down a list of needs and wants (99 points) in order to find his wife. With this in mind, I compiled my list and came up with 104 points. Anyway, I postulated that my next relationship would click and not be efforty.
Each night I would search Affinity Exchange. One day, up comes Ludmilla—beautiful, and a Libran Rat!! I was amazed. I showed her to my roommates and told them, “I’m going to marry that girl.” I sent her a message and we entered into a “penpal” friendship.
We communicated quite a bit, but then she told me about being in love with someone else. I was devastated. I decided to pull a reverse vector—I asked her to help market me. She did, and I got in comm with other ladies—but all the while wanting her. I asked her to look over my poems, which were, of course, really about her. Meanwhile she was telling me why she was rejecting other men. She was always looking for negatives and putting me through tests. Finally, when she originated to me about her upset with someone she’d met, I felt the communication move to a new level, at which point I gave her my full attention.
Her comm about how qualified some of her suitors were caused me to feel invalidated. “I’m just a staff member,” I said. Then I found out she had been bragging to her friends, saying “He’s been a staff member for 10 years!” Turns out she saw me as a bit of a hero; she respected me for being dedicated to helping others. That granting of beingness meant a lot to me. I noticed how often she told me what she liked about me.
When I knew she was coming to visit, I raced to the jewelry store, saw a ring with a blue stone the color of her eyes and bought it. Cleaned the car, put blankets on the seats, bought a dozen roses and raced to the airport.
When I saw her, she looked like a queen. I gave her a delicate kiss, opened the car door for her, took her to dinner—was truly on my best behavior. The next day I got down on my knee and proposed. She said Yes! A dream come true.
She then visited me three more times in Perth, and I visited her once in Moscow. Note that at one point in the relationship, a rough spot occurred wherein she ended the relationship. I went right to work on fixing the problem and asked her to take me back. She said I would have to re-propose. We were racing to the airport, so I had to think fast how to do this. I saw a lake and quickly pulled off the freeway and drove to the lake. I stole a rose from someone’s garden, then spotted a park bench. I sat her there, gave her the rose, pulled a ring off my finger, got down on my knee, and proposed again. I was so happy when she said Yes. But the most amazing part of the story is that she pulled out a little journal from her purse and showed me a picture of her ideal proposal that she had sketched before she met me. Her sketch matched what had just happened—park, bench, lake, man on one knee with flower and the ring!! I think we were destined to be together.
We came together again in Los Angeles, which is where we got married. Once the visa stuff is handled, she will live with me in Perth. Thank you, Marcia, for creating the avenue wherein we were able to find one another.
PAUL GLENSKI and LILE MILENKOVSKA
From Lile: When it came to my love life, I had lots of hopes, usually followed by failures. But I kept searching and hoping. Finally I realized my main mistake: I kept on choosing the wrong type of man. So I decided to change that.
I found out about The Affinity Exchange about 6 years ago but didn’t like the idea of finding my mate that way–it was totally unreal to me; so I continually refused to put my profile on it.
After experiencing another disappointment, I said to myself, “Okay, let`s just peek into Affinity Exchange, just to see what is it all about.” So I created a skimpy little profile with just one picture and some generalities, but I blew it off when I had to say something about myself. A year later, after quite a few reminders from Marcia to fill out my profile all the way, I decided to do so. Once it was approved, I started to look for prospects and I sent Hello’s to some. After three weeks of occasionally doing so, Paul replied with a message that said “I had to Google Skopje, Macedonia to find out where you live.” Ha-ha…
After couple of days, we started to Skype and kept on Skyping every night. What interested me most in this man was that he smiled a lot and greeted me with excitement, and we had such great communication—just what I needed! Two weeks later I felt I was falling in love with him.
It was the smoothest relationship ever, even from the beginning! I was amazed at how easy it was for us–no effort, no misemotion, no doubts… just nice and easy. Two months after we met on AE, he flew to Macedonia to visit me; then I went to visit him in Florida. I loved it there. We spent four months together and found out we were perfect for each other.
Eighteen months later, in the summer of 2011, we got married. It was the happiest day of my life! I wish our wedding party could have lasted for a week!
Paul has made me a very happy woman. He is totally the man I was looking for. Can you imagine not having a single fight in almost two years?! How wonderful is that?! Not to mention little surprises I get from him now and then, the way he looks at me when he tells me how fortunate he is to have me… and lots of little beautiful things he emanates as a person. I am a very much loved woman, and I`m hopelessly in love with my husband!
Whenever somebody asks me how we met, I proudly say, “The Affinity Exchange site.”
I`ve recommended it to all my single friends, as thanks to AE and its creator Marcia, I found my perfect match!
From Paul: Using The Affinity Exchange, I met a wonderful woman named Lile. I feel truly lucky and fortunate to find such a loving, caring, and thoughtful woman who loves me so much! We got married this past July. Let me start at the beginning of the story.
I joined AE about two years ago. I lived in Clearwater, Florida, and was looking for a girlfriend who lived in that area. I started to get communication from women in Russia and I thought that was so weird. Actually it irritated me. I would simply delete the emails. Then I read an email from Marcia where she recommended acknowledging all communication. Made some sense.
Shortly after that I received a communication from Lile, who lived in Macedonia. “Where’s that?” I thought. I had to Google it (it’s near Greece). Following Marcia’s recommendation, I replied with an email. After one week Lile and I started to Skype. That was November. I had no intention of having a 2D with her due to the distance, etc, but I did enjoy the conversations. We talked almost every day for two months. What impressed me the most was our comm cycle, which was very smooth, easygoing and enjoyable.
By December she wanted me to come and visit, but I was fearful. I told her stories about the Albanian mafia and human trafficking and how I was concerned for my safety. She would laugh and tell me not to worry. I also had negative considerations on having long distance relationships, but we just kept skyping. This may sound corny, but I started to fall in love. Her eyes were so bright and she was always so eager to see me, plus that wonderful and endearing smile! I managed to change my considerations about distance, safety, etc. and went to visit her in January for two weeks, after which we knew we would be a good match.
We have known each other now for almost two years. It has been remarkably smooth–not one argument or upset. I never thought I’d be able to find someone so compatible.
We are now living in Macedonia with the idea of moving to Istanbul. Wow! Have things changed for me–and with very little effort. That’s the truly amazing part! Thank you, Marcia.