DENNIS HOMANT and TATIANA
From Dennis: It is almost six years now since I married Tatiana. In that time, my second dynamic has flourished far beyond what I could have hoped for as a younger man. I am sure my wife loves me as do I her.
We connected some 8 years ago through the Affinity Exchange. My previous marriage was painful, causing me to vow to never again marry–let alone to someone out of the country! Tatiana was a Russian spiritual counselor practicing in Lisbon, Portugal. She was a long way from her home, which was in Minsk, Belarus. We conversed through emails and Skype for over a year. She finally convinced me to meet her in Portugal.
It went well. I felt she was the one for me. We soon planned to marry and pulled it off. It was a big deal for both of us, and a big move for her, especially as she brought her teenaged daughter with her.
In the beginning, things were tough. I think it was mainly due to myself having lived for so many years alone. It took the better part of the first three years for us both to acclimate to one another. She was wonderful about accepting me for who I am, and I am most grateful for that. I think that’s what it is all about. I never thought I would have that in this lifetime. I thought it was too late for me, so was especially happy that I found her!
It helped tremendously that we share the same religion; thus spiritually, our goals, realities, and communication are equal. It’s tough if you cannot speak to someone of your essence so that they can understand. I think it helps to tell about your goals and aspirations up front. Things change over time. Goals change over time, but knowing where you are headed before one starts needs to be communicated up front. This requires courage and honesty.
I love my wife. She has made me the happiest man in the world. Though we are not yet where we want to be on all the other dynamics, as regards our second dynamic, we are flourishing and prospering. I would not trade it for anything in the world.
From Tatiana: I was a successful spiritual counselor (class 5) in the field, practicing in Lisbon, when I first connected with Dennis. I have four girls from previous unsuccessful marriages back in Belarus; thus I was skeptical about my chances of having a successful long-term relationship. But, fortunately, I decided to use the Affinity Exchange website to try and find someone. Dennis and I communicated for over a year before he was able to come Lisbon to meet me. It was love at first sight!
After I came to the U.S. and we got married, the relationship encountered difficulties. We are from different countries and different cultures. But we persisted, and, as time went on, I came to understand that I could trust my husband. I will not betray him and he will not betray me. We discovered that we can work things out because we have common goals. He is very very helpful to me, and I am helpful to him. Eventually I realized that I feel much better with him than without him, and, of course, I love him.
Now we have big plans for the future. We push each other to make forward progress in achieving our spiritual goals. Our 2nd dynamic is expanding with the addition of two grandchildren, plus two more coming soon. We purchased a new house and will soon have a small farm.
I look forward to being with him every day. I am happy! Thank you, Affinity Exchange, for making all this possible.