“…and immediately (within seconds) *ping* a new email came in. It was from Ray.”
From Sheri: Having been married before, I had a pretty good understanding of what worked and what didn’t–or so I thought! My friend Megan told me that what I needed was a “Yenta” … the traditional Yiddish matchmaker of old. She volunteered her services and told me she had good stats in the area in that people she had introduced had gotten and stayed happily married. I agreed!
Her first instructions were to get signed up with Affinity Exchange, which I did. I was a free member for six months and found it useful, but less than ideal for my needs, so I changed to a paid subscription and it made all the difference. I know and like myself, so I thought the best way to find the right person was to be very honest–a “what you see is what you get” kind of reach.
I didn’t write what I thought someone would want to hear but wrote about who I was and what I was looking for. I met and/or dated several very nice gentlemen over the course of a year, some only once, and one several times. I have kept in touch with a few that met my needs as friends, but not as a partner.
At one point I got a bit discouraged as I kept running into the same scenario, that is, I was not quite what they were looking for. Also I had trouble answering their questions about my spiritual progress. I talked this over with Megan and she advised me to discuss these matters with the appropriate people at my church. This really indicated, and immediately (within seconds) *ping* a new email came in. It was from Ray.
As I read the words “I just had to write …”, followed by a detailed and lengthy comparison between my essays and his point of view, my grin got bigger and bigger! Megan asked, “What are you reading?” I read her the entire email. Her reply was, “Oh, you’ve got to meet this one!”
I was living in Northern California, but it turns out when his email came I was visiting L.A. with the intention of planning a move back. Ray wanted to take advantage of our proximity (nine miles instead of 350!), and we agreed to meet the next day. As soon as I talked to Ray over coffee, I knew we would be very good friends. He was the first to see that we would be so much more. Megan met him (as any good Yenta should!) and approved.
Once back in Northern California, we kept in touch and spoke almost daily. I fell in love with him over the phone! My company previously had informed me that it would be a year or more before I could transfer back to L.A. Miraculously, a few weeks after meeting Ray, they informed me my transfer had been approved for the following month! So two months after meeting Ray, I was able to join him.
He is the kindest, sweetest man I could ever hope for. He encourages me to be more and inspires me just by being himself. We were married a year and four months after meeting. Megan was my matron of honor, and my son walked me down the aisle.
Thank you, Marcia, for providing a wonderful way to meet the right person!
From Ray: The Affinity Exchange was the best way I found of finding prospects with purposes, likes and realities similar to mine. The search categories were just what I needed and were very helpful.
I had been looking for a 2D for close to two years. Using the Affinity Exchange’s search criteria, I did a search and found Sheri’s profile. As I read it, it was as if I was checking off item after item after item after item, nodding my head and wanting to let her know how each matched myself or my interests or what I was looking for. The list of shared realities went on for all two pages of her profile. My first words that burst out when I wrote to her were, “I just had to write…”
We use those words now as the symbol of our first anniversary–the day we connected and then met.
That first date turned into four dates on the same day–a meeting for coffee, followed by lunch; then meeting her son at the Barnes and Noble bookstore; then joining them for an afternoon movie; then dinner for all of us that evening!
We were married a year and four months later. We will be together for the rest of this lifetime.
Thank you sincerely for helping us meet and helping to make happen this joining of lives.